Marriage Stinks…Sometimes

Ya’ll I’m not gonna lie….marriage is hard and there are times when it just down right sucks….and you want to quit. But we don’t. We dig in our heals, we work TOGETHER on things that need fixing, and we pray intensely about everything that’s out of our control (key word there is “everything”….especially each other)!!!!!

God is the answer!!! He is the Hope in hopeless. He is the glue in our marriage!!!

I love my husband from depths of my heart that go way beyond “feelings”. Feelings will lie at times. Feelings (positive or negative) can overwhelm and cloud your judgement. There are days (even seasons) that I don’t even feel like LIKE-ing him, much less being affectionate and loving!! But feelings can change so quickly and seasons will come and go. The good ones can build and the bad one can destroy (if left unrepaired), but learning to pause and express your feelings from a place of respect and composure is key!! (I have failed at this miserably plenty of times)

You know I’m speaking about marriage, but honestly this pertains to any relationship in your life that you value or have ever valued; family, friends, co-workers…or how about your relationship with God?

We’re called to live by faith, not by our flesh (feelings). In fact, there’s a common saying, “Faith Over Fear”, but I believe this could be better expressed as “Faith over Feelings”.  However, living by faith doesn’t mean we ignore our emotions, it simply means we aren’t so easily influenced by them. It means we acknowledge that our feelings aren’t always facts. The goal is to take your current emotional state and put a word to it (like anxious, angry, scared, stressed….etc), and apply/compare that word to God’s word. What does God have to say about your current mood/situation? Then ask God, by His word, to guide you through those emotions and, hopefully, produce a more productive reaction/response.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

What my husband and I are learning (and continue striving to develop daily) together is that OPEN consistent communication is imperative, compromise is necessary, but the real answer is prayer. Prayer is essential!! Only God can lay an unshakable foundation…and ONLY God can truly repair a broken one.

I want to say thank you to my husband for loving me with such a strong fighting spirit!! For being a man who refuses to quit (or allow me to)!! But I especially want to thank him for being a man that is willing to grow with me, learn with me, trial and error with me, and build with me the life that God has called us both to live….together!! I love you babe!! Thank you!!

Stay authentic my friends
Crystal